If you’ve finally convinced yourself, or got dragged by a friend, to show up to a singles event, that’s a brave step. Whether you’re tired of dating apps, curious about real-life connections, or just want an excuse to dress up and meet like-minded people, you’re in for a ride.
Socialising at a singles event can feel kind of overwhelming. You have to maintain a perfect balance of flirting, small talk, and personality assessment. But don’t worry – with the right attitude and a little prep, it doesn’t have to be awkward.
Here are some tips to help you survive your next singles event.
Ditch the Expectations
Sure, some people go to singles events to find “the one” for them, but going in with that kind of pressure is a recipe for stress.
Instead of trying to decide if someone is marriage material after a 2-minute conversation, just focus on having fun and connecting. When you stop hunting for perfection, you will be more relaxed – and that makes you way more attractive.
Arrive a Bit Early
If you’ve been Googling singles near me to no avail, going to an event in person is definitely a step ahead. And you need to stand out.
Arriving early not only lets you warm up to the space, but you can also chat with the hosts and settle your nerves before the crowd gathers in.
You might also get the chance to start conversations with other early arrivers, which is much better than having to jump into a group that has already formed a circle.
Be Yourself
You don’t need to start a conversation with a pickup line or pitch your entire personality in 30 seconds. Keep it casual. It’s not an audition.
You can simply say something like, “Hey, mind if I join you?” to grab someone’s attention and maybe even keep it. The goal is to connect with people who might match your personality or values.
Be a Good Listener
It’s tempting to talk about yourself when you’re nervous, but try doing the opposite instead. Ask thoughtful questions and listen to the answers patiently.
Not only does this make people feel seen – which is green flag behavior, by the way – but it also gives you a better look into whether you two have any actual chemistry.
Also, wait for them to ask you a question in response without cutting them off.
Counter Awkwardness with Humour
Let’s be honest. Some conversations will be awkward. You might even spill a drink. Someone might mishear your name.
These moments are gold if you lean into them instead of freaking out. Laugh it off. Make a joke. Self-deprecating humour goes a long way in making you seem genuine and fun. And it also eases the other person instead of making them feel bad or awkward.
Have an Exit Plan
If someone is taking over your time and you’re not into it, don’t just run away or vanish. You can say something like, “Hey, I really enjoyed talking, but I promised myself I’d mingle a bit more.”
That way, you’re not being rude. You would be respecting both your own time and theirs.
And if you do meet someone cool? Make sure you follow up by sliding into their DMs or texting them the next day.
